Take This Three Dimensional Quiz to Find Out!
Knowing Your Three Dimensionality Quotient Makes a Difference.
How grounded is your communication with your partner? Is your communication threedimensional? Emotionally safe? Find out below.
Choose a number from 1 to 4 depending on how accurately or inaccurately it describes what goes on between you and your partner.
1 = Never; 2 = Not Usually; 0 = Neutral or Not Applicable; 3 = Usually; 4=Always
1) When my partner and I disagree about something, it escalates into a conversation that causes hurt feelings.
1 2 0 3 4
2) Given the way I communicate with my partner at present, I would expect that he or she would take my opinions and ideas seriously whether or not they agree with me.
1 2 0 3 4
3) I do not appreciate my partner asking questions about how I feel. If they have to ask questions, it already feels like I’m alone with what I am going through.
1 2 0 3 4
4) When there is an awareness that either my own or my partner’s feelings have been hurt we tend to resolve the issue that caused the hurt quickly. In the end, we consider the issue resolved when we both feel that our feelings have been understood, acknowledged and appreciated by one another.
1 2 0 3 4
5) My partner feels that I ask questions about his/her feelings in order to use the information against him/her.
1 2 0 3 4
6) My partner and I speak candidly about ways in which we enjoy being with each other sexually.
1 2 0 3 4
7) I feel helpless to get my partner to focus on and take in my point of view.
1 2 0 3 4
8) When it comes to money issues, my partner and I are able to help each other think through and express differences in a calm and respectful manner.
1 2 0 3 4
9) I expect my partner to satisfy my social needs.
1 2 0 3 4
10) My partner makes an effort to find out how I feel.
1 2 0 3 4
11) My partner and I go to bed angry.
1 2 0 3 4
12) I may know a lot about myself but, at the same time, I learn new things about myself all the time.
1 2 0 3 4
13) I find myself thinking, “People who have trouble making decisions annoy me.”
1 2 0 3 4
14) I am curious about and interested in how my partner feels and I believe that he/she understands that well.
1 2 0 3 4
15) My partner gives me the “cold shoulder.”
1 2 0 3 4
16) Decision making with my partner is open and collaborative.
1 2 0 3 4
17) I crave acknowledgement from my partner that he or she is responsible for the problems in our relationship.
1 2 0 3 4
18) I feel included in small decisions such as what we eat for dinner.
1 2 0 3 4
19) When my opinion is very different than his or her own, my partner ridicules me.
1 2 0 3 4
20) When I am upset it is a comfort to speak with my partner.
1 2 0 3 4
21) My partner rolls his or her eyes at me when I speak.
1 2 0 3 4
22) My partner confers with me before changing plans that we have agreed upon together.
1 2 0 3 4
23) I find myself having this thought: “I believe that my partner would treat me better if he or she truly loved me.”
1 2 0 3 4
24) My partner is important to me but my friends are also very important to me.
1 2 0 3 4